People don’t usually search for how to hex your ex because they are spoiled, impulsive, or incapable of accepting a breakup.
They search for it because something was taken from them and never returned. They are told to forgive and be grateful for the lesson learned. Anger is low-vibration. Send love and light, because the best revenge is living well.
Yes, I agree. I'm all about moving on - but after taking some necessary and reassuring actions.
Including cursing your ex.
Why the Desire to Hex an Ex Is Natural
Let's be precise. Everyone has the absolute right to end a relationship they no longer want. But some people do it in a way that really sucks. They proceed to ghost, letting the other person figure it out. They want the benefit of ending a relationship without paying the psychological cost of doing it properly, with no respect or empathy for the other person’s feelings.
What’s even worse, ghosting keeps the door open for them to return in the future as if nothing happened, with some random excuse and the lowest-effort text imaginable (“hey stranger”).
Ghosting defenders can get creative, arguing that an explanation won't satisfy you anyway. I don't agree with this line of reasoning. If the relationship involved emotional investment, intimacy, discussed expectations, or an implied future, then it needs to end formally, no matter how brief or unimportant the story may have been for the one who wants to leave.
If the explanation doesn't satisfy you, that is another matter. But you deserve one.
Human bonds require closure to dissolve in a healthy way. When communication stops abruptly, the brain cannot classify what is happening and registers a literal threat. Anxiety spikes and the nervous system keeps searching for answers. This activates stress hormones. The nervous system is designed to respond to this scenario with confrontation and resolution, but ghosting removes that possibility entirely, leaving the situation suspended rather than resolved.
When there is no available path to closure, the organism’s defensive architecture remains activated with no way to resolve anything, which is the most stressful position possible.
Rejection has a structure: cause and ending. Without it, letting go is not possible. Moving on just doesn't work neurologically. Unfinished tasks stay mentally active, and the mind remains engaged, returning to them.
For the individual who leaves, ghosting is also a power move. It allows them to totally control the narrative. The person left behind, however, is forced to wait - a form of submission imposed without consent.
This is why people who are ghosted feel powerless, obsessive, and humiliated.
The Real Damage of a Nasty Breakup
Breakups are part of life. They are not a tragedy, and they don’t automatically destroy a person. Most people recover when an ending is clear, proportional, and respectful.
What is not normal, and what often gets minimized, is the damage caused by a separation handled with cruelty or silence. The person left behind begin to question their own judgment and their value. They experience a gradual erosion of self-esteem and personal confidence. They end up over-correcting what it made them special in the first place. It's the only way available to regain control.
This kind of damage is subtle but persistent.
It’s similar to what happens to athletes after a serious injury. They may return to the game, but they don’t return the same. They hesitate, they protect themselves and they anticipate impact before it happens. The body remembers the injury and the mind adjusts accordingly.
People coming out of a breakup must return to the dating pool as intact as possible. Maybe a little sad, maybe bruised, but still open. Instead, many become more guarded, more suspicious, and often more bitter. Their sense of safety has been compromised. They may still want connection, but they approach it defensively. The hope and mystery of love just feels gone.
This dull energy, of course, repels potential love interests.
That needs to change. You need to remain capable of expecting the best rather than preparing yourself for the worst. You should carry your natural confidence and your capacity for happiness, without doubt, anger, bitterness and skepticism creeping in.
You need to take your power back. The only way to do that is to hex your ex.
The Best Hex for an Ex Who Ghosted You
It's tempting to argue that a curse doesn't provide any real benefit for you.
Yes, it does. Black magick allows you to rewrite the end of the story. Don't listen to these preachy practitioners trying to scare you out of a well-deserved hex.
No one is obligated to explain their reasons for wanting to curse someone. If you want to hex, fine by me. I want you to be happy. But no customer who comes to me after a break up has an ex who behaved decently. Their ex did them dirty, vanishing without a trace after promising the world. Their feelings of humiliation are genuine and perfectly understandable.
The curse I most often recommend for an ex is the Miserable Without Me spell.
This type of curse ritual is not designed as random cruelty or theatrical vengeance. It exists to reverse the emotional asymmetry created when a relationship ends badly, especially through abandonment or moral evasion. When someone leaves without accountability, they walk away emotionally relieved while the other person is left carrying unresolved guilt, sadness, shame, and longing.
This ritual functions as a deliberate counterweight to that imbalance, redirecting this emotional pressure back toward its source.
No more, no less.
The target begins to experience persistent melancholy, emotional heaviness, and intrusive thoughts linked specifically to the other person. The goal is obsession but also recognition, an internal understanding that what they feel now is connected to what they avoided then.
Can a Curse Bring an Ex Back? What Actually Happens
After the ritual, I ask you to disengage from your ex's entirely. Stop checking their social media. Don't talk to friends in common who mean nothing to you. Don't monitor your ex to find out if the spell is working. The spell is working.
The more naturally indifferent you are, the better. There is no need to block them or dramatize your absence. Don't reach out to them, as this will alter the results of the spells. How are they meant to miss you if you remain constantly available? In this situation, basic common sense is especially useful.
The desire of revenge can be a poisonous thing for oneself. Once the hex work is done, you wash your hands of it. You are now allowed to feel lighter, less upset, as justice is on the way. Meanwhile, keep yourself as busy as possible. You are on a new exciting path with endless possibilities.
What will happen to them? At some point, the internal pressure of the curse tends to surface externally. When the emotional weight becomes uncomfortable, people look for relief. In other words, your ex will come back to you.
Sometimes this happens awkwardly or indirectly, but their attempt to reach out will escalate. I advise you to ignore them. When combined with magic, silence works like a charm. Exes go completely crazy. Once the contact becomes clear and persistent, responding in a neutral, minimal way is not a mistake. At that point, the dynamic has already shifted. You are no longer this person they took for granted and they know it.
What happens next is your choice to make. You decide how much access to allow or whether to close the door entirely. You can reject them, now that the balance has been restored. You can also give them another chance if there is still genuine love. Some of my customers went back with their exes and things worked out great. They could leave the bad feelings behind and built a future together.
Others realized they didn’t want their exes back at all. Not because the feelings were gone, but because the damage was too deep. The pull was there, but so was the memory of what had happened. The silence, the replacement, the humiliation, the sudden disappearance: those things do not vanish just because contact resumes. The idea of starting again felt nauseating. What changed was not their desire for the other person, but their position within the story. What they needed was closure on their own terms. Once that happened, a reconciliation was no longer necessary.
Sometimes what it matters is what you want now, not what you wanted then.
As you can see, both responses are valid. The common denominator is that the person who was left behind now decides
This is the beauty of demonic magick.
